michele obama was a health care executive making a lot of money and barack obama was in law school doing public service and they have switched places where he is the main guy and she is the supporter and this is a pretty common pattern of marriage among the college-educated and it has proved to be a stable, good model where as for everybody else in america for the 70% of americans who don't have a college degree marriage is disappearing. people are not getting married. if they are getting married they have high divorce rate and rates of single motherhood are astronomical. it is largely because women are doing everything and the men are dropping out of society. they are not finding themselves -- i reported this in this town in alabama, a hard time getting on their feet figuring out how to remake themselves and what you see is a lot of men going on disability or just not dropping out of the work force. we have the lowest labor force participation rate among men they have had since the 1940s. i want to close off by explaining what the -- what "the end of men" is not which is useful because